I’ve always enjoyed sharing my ideas about building confidence. It’s such a simple concept yet so difficult to apply. (from what the audience shared, at least) It’s especially more so when applied to public speaking. Many people do comment that the image of possible humiliation by the audience do “bug” them. Others are simply at a loss for words to describe that lack of confidence.
At The Presentation Coach, we addressed that issue. “How to Speak With Confidence?” it generally turns out to be fun (and I mean extremely) and very interactive. The audience goes crazy and they cheered for the speakers like they were superstars!
I find that the lack of confidence is really an issue on what people focus on. Whenever people “suffer” from a lack of confidence, it’s because they have been focusing things like:
When you think about the things that will consume you in a presentation, the mind goes into a vicious Cycle of Limiting Beliefs. One major limiting beliefs is as follows:
”I’ve seen boring speakers –> the audience insulted the speaker –> the speaker was humiliated –> he is boring–> therefore if I speak, the same will happen –> it has happened before so it will happen again –> the audience will be bored –> they will humiliate me –> I will be hurt –> I don’t want to be hurt –> I don’t want to hurt forever –> since I am so boring, therefore I shall not speak –> why?
Because I have seen boring speakers –> (Back to the beginning of the cycle)”
So, in order to truly speak with confidence, you can apply the following points:
1. Break the pattern of negative habits.
2. Focus on your audience, not what they think of you.
3. Focus on your message for your audience.
4. Focus on the higher values for your audience.
5. Understand that the speech it’s for your audience, not you.
6. Speak for your audience, it’s not you. Craft your speech to their listening ears and curious sight.
7. Establish your credibility.
8. Earn their respect.
9. Shape their mind and hearts when you’ve got credibility and earn their respect.
10. Inspire them to the higher purpose.
Public speaking with confidence is a continuous path of learning and growing. Work on the points by applying them in your next speech. Take yourself further as you excel beyond excellence!
As The Presentation Coach, Gerald has over 20 remarkable years as a professional speaker, engaging audiences with humour, controversy and plenty of ideas. Gerald has spoken to a wide variety of groups, including business, medical, academic, association, professional and corporate audiences. He’s an engaging, thought provoking speaker and storyteller. Gerald is energetic and professional. He knows how to motivate the the crowd, Quality isn’t expensive..it’s priceless!